Yes, I watch the Bachelor. I'm not ashamed of it. It's a fascinating sociological experiment.
And a nice girl who got rejected the other night started bawling, gasping for breath and blurted out, "This just makes me question everything!" As if that was inherently a bad thing.
Self esteem is an interesting concept. I remember my older sister and I had this argument when I was 8. She argued that it was vital for people to have high self-esteem. I countered this argument, based on the fact that I didn't like my sister, and assumed her to be wrong about everything. I stand by this argument today, but with slightly better reasoning. For, self-esteem is only good if it's accurate.
American children have the highest self esteem in the world. But the test score don't match this. Now, we must be sure we're separating this concept form self-worth. Having self-worth IS vital. One's inherent value as a child of God is priceless. Yet, esteem about one's life should be subjective based upon the life itself. Otherwise, we will stop evolving.
We shouldn't merely desire to give people self confidence. We should desire for people to transform into an increased "self".