When I was in high school, my friend and I were arguing about the quickest way to get to a destination.
I said, "Ok, you drive your way and I'll drive mine, and we'll see who gets there first."
He objected, "No way! You'll just drive really fast to get there first."
I said, "Ok, I'll drive your way then."
He objected, "No way! Then, you'll just drive really slow to lose."
But, I wasn't trying to win. And I didn't want him to lose. I was legitimately curious in finding out which way was fastest, so I could use that route from then on.
And that, more than anything, is what makes us different from the rest of the world. Those of us not interested in being right, but determining what "right" is.