August 20, 2008
My wife and I hardly ever fight. When we do, it's typically when working on household projects together.
Why is this? Because no one's in charge.
We've touched on this concept before, but I never associated it with marriage.
Every task requires leadership. Yet, neither myself or my wife's natural skill set involves painting doors or moving furniture. So, when we work together on these tasks, it is often challenging, because we both start directing and disagreeing.
To avoid these arguments, my solution until now has simply been to split up these tasks into solo efforts as much as possible.
But, now I think there's a better option. Decide who's in control for each task. And follow the leader.